Why I Shout About Postpartum Depression & Mum Life


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Why I Shout About Postpartum Depression & Mum Life

It’s no secret to those of you who follow Mummyitsok that I have postnatal /postpartum depression and have done for the last 3 years. I shout about it, blog about it, tweet about it and just generally try to a whole lot of noise about it to anybody that will listen. I feel its important to try to raise awareness of this illness as a lot of mums do not seek help for a long time if at all. I want all mums to know its OK to go ask for help.

Why I Shout About Postnatal Depression & Mum Life

Why do I make so much noise about it? Well here’s just one example – the other day on a well known news site a new mum had wrote about her PND/PPD and how it had affect her and her relationship with her newborn (which was very brave of her so well done). My heart sank it was all a very familiar feeling, poor love – I’d been exactly where she was now. I was sat reading through the comments and there were several along the lines of – ‘everyone seems to have a mental illness these days’ ‘is this now the fashionable thing to have’  ‘all the celebs seem to have it and its always in the news so now everyone thinks they have it’.

Of course you can imagine my displeasure at the person commenting. This wonderful mum had poured her heart out about her struggles with Postnatal Depression only to get comments back about how PND its the latest fashion accessory to have like all the celebs. (don’t worry I wrote a lovely comment back).

That’s when it dawned on me even with multiple PND blogging mums out there, many campaigns by mental health charities and celebs talking about their personal experience’s trying to highlight a very real problem – it seems mental health still isn’t taken as seriously as physical health. Why I’m not sure. Seems as soon as you say ‘mental health’ it gets associated with ‘you’re crazy’ this perception of those with mental health issues needs to stop. We are not all sat in a white padded cell in a strait-jacket rocking away to ourselves (OK a few of us might be but you know where I’m coming from).

I will keep on shouting about Postnatal Depression to Mums everywhere. I will shout to let them know yes its a illness, yes its real, but one that you can totally recover from. I will keep shouting until everyone knows and understands about PND so mums are not scared or worried about asking for help. So that we can get the right type of help that we need to support us through a difficult time in our life. Remember having PND doesn’t make you a bad mum.

Yes the main niche of this blog is postnatal depression but I do write about other topics of interest to mums, such as formula feeding, mum guilt and our toddlers! I feel it’s important to include all other parenting topics, yes we have postnatal depression, it is a part of us but it does not define who we are. We still encounter the same issues such as teething, weaning, potty training, chickenpox and the terrible twos! This is why I don’t just blog about postnatal depression – because we are mums just like everyone else.

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15 thoughts on “Why I Shout About Postpartum Depression & Mum Life

  • Dr Mummykins

    I love this. And I think you are brilliant.

    I agree there is still some way to go in making the general public comfortable talking about mental health. Ultimately the brain is an organ. It is an organ much like the thyroid that may need thyroxine, like the heart that may need blood pressure tablets or the lungs that need inhalers.

    Keep doing what you are doing (and ignoring cowardly uneducated online posts) x x #sundaystars

    • mummyitsok Post author

      Hi! Thanks for the lovely reply 🙂 always nice to read 🙂 I’ll keep going and shouting and fighting for postnatal depression mums

  • oladele

    Thanks for your loving thoughts. PND is a reality that as doctors we face all the time. Only the person affected that can really describe the pains that they passed through. Thanks for sharing your experience with us so that those affected or feeling that way unattached to their new born baby will no they are not alone. I think I will write one of these days on motherhood and the challenges of PND on my website theevolvingdele.com. Hopefully I hope to link you to the post. Just as Drmummykins said people will always talk contrary things no matter how good what you say or write. You don’t mind them. Those with like minds will appreciate you.

  • oladele

    Thanks for your loving thoughts. PND is a reality that as doctors we face all the time. Only the person affected that can really describe the pains that they passed through. Thanks for sharing your experience with us so that those affected or feeling that way unattached to their new born baby will no they are not alone. I think I will write one of these days on motherhood and the challenges of PND on my website theevolvingdele.com. Hopefully I hope to link you to the post. Just as Dr mummykins said people will always talk contrary things no matter how good what you say or write. You don’t mind them. Those with like minds will appreciate you.

  • Mrs H

    Oh it is so important to blog and share these experiences. I was diagnosed with depression at 20 and I have had so many relapses that it is now classed as life-long depression. At the moment, I am in remission but it doesn’t mean that I always will be. I blog about my depression because it is part of who I am. If I left it out of my blog then I feel that I would effectively be lying to my readers. And I also hate to think of any person going through the same and feeling isolated. So if my story can help just one person feel better about themselves then I’ll know that I’ve done the right thing. Thanks so much for linking up with #SundayStars. Hugs Lucy xxxx

  • Steph

    Yes, of course it’s a very important topic to keep shouting about and if that’s what you’re passionate about sharing, then you just go for it. It bemuses me how some people just seek putt o pick holes in others who are bearing their souls to the world and trying to help. They’re horrible people who probably don’t understand much in life, let alone the topic of PND. If you have experience of something which you want to sure in the hope it will help others, then I personally think that’s wonderful. Ignore the haters. Thanks for linking up with #SundayStars Steph xxx

  • Carly aka Mummy

    Having lived with depression on and off for years I can totally relate. I agree…why is physical impairment dealt with in a different way? Surely if you have something not quite right anywhere in your body including your mind it should be dealt with suitably and as quickly as possible. A mummy friend of mine was on a waiting list to see a counsellor for pnd for 6 over 6 months. Ridiculous. Thanks for sharing. I hope the days arent so dark now and you have strategies for the harder days. #fartglitter

    • mummyitsok Post author

      Totally agree that mental health is dealt in a very different way to physical health. The waiting times are just ridiculous, people need help and support straight away not when it may be too late. Totally rattles my cage! xxx

  • laura dove

    I’ve said it before but I love your blog, I love anyone who has the balls to stand up and say, yes I have lived with a mental illness but I am fighting back and I will find a way through. As Ive said previously, I have had PND for 12 years, battled a whole host of mental illness as a result of that, and I think it is SO important to keep talking about it, keep sharing our stories and keep raising awareness so that nobody feels they need to suffer in silence. Well done you. #fartglitter

    • mummyitsok Post author

      Always lovely to hear from you. I’m on my 3rd year of PND – getting there slowly! I think it’s such an important thing to talk about, I want to let mums know having PND does not make you a bad mum xxx

  • Rhyming with Wine

    I think that you should be so proud of your blog and the work that you are doing to raise awareness of PND and to stand up against the stigma that still exists around mental illness. I suffered with post natal anxiety after my first was born, and it is terrifying to realise that sometimes you’re just not able to control your own thoughts and feelings. Add this to the new responsibility of being a mum to a tiny human, and you can be left feeling very isolated. Your blog reaches out to other Mums and reassures them that that there is help out there and that they are not alone. I think what you’re doing is great and will be a huge support to anyone else out there going through the same experiences.

    Thank you for linking up to #FartGlitter x

    • mummyitsok Post author

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment. It is tough having a mental illness and a newborn to take care of. I hope that some mums out there do read my blog and know they aren’t alone and that it does get easier. xxx

  • Lisa Robb (@workingmumy)

    Looking back when I had Holly, before I strutted to blog or even knew anything about it. I think I had PND to begin with. I don’t think it was as bad as some people get it, but i was definitely there. I hid it as I didn’t want people to think less of mr as a first time mum (being 24 and having people tell me I was too young also didn’t help) Now I have seen and heard a lot about it on a blogging format, I know what to look out for this time. An its all because of bloggers like yourself shouting about it. So please don’t stop 🙂 you are helping more people than you know 🙂
    Lx

  • Hannah Spannah Coco Banana

    Well done and keep on shouting!!! I blogged about my personal experience too. I can’t believe the people that were suggesting that people were self diagnosing themselves to be ‘trendy’!! My niw ex mother in law said I was an unfit mother because I was on medication after having my son due to PND. There are all sorts of prejudices out there but voices like yours will help change. Thanks for joining the #weekendblogshare