Fed Is Best – Tube-fed, Bottle-fed or Breastfed It’s All Good


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Fed Is Best – Tube-fed, Bottle-fed or Breastfed It’s All Good

‘Fed is Best’ is something I’ve come across on several social media accounts and blogs – and I have to say I think it’s wonderful – but I will add a couple of my own tweaks to this as it has been causing offence to some mothers.

When we say ‘Fed is Best’ we do not mean it as an optional statement – where by we are saying its best to feed your baby – but you don’t have to. This is NOT what Fed is Best is trying to portray in any way shape or form – its is in direct response to the ‘Breast is Best’ where by we mean its OK if its breast or formula milk.

Fed IS Best - tube, bottle or breastfed it's all good

The idea behind ‘Fed is Best’ is that however you choose to feed your baby – breast, bottle, tube fed it’s all great! And I have to agree. You never know what a mother and baby has been through. It’s unfair to judge them depending on if the breast or bottle-fed.

Too many times on parenting sites and blogs I have seen articles about how ‘Breast is Best’. Some of the comments directed towards formula feeders have been totally unacceptable and clearly hurtful.

I have witnessed some mums being told they are terrible parents, are poisoning their babies with formula milk and don’t deserve to be parents. I find it really sad to see mums upsetting other mums because they chose a different path. Especially as on many occasions the mum who is formula feeding desperately tried to breast feed but for whatever reason couldn’t – we feel enough ‘Mum Guilt‘ of our own.

Fed Is Best – The Reality

The reality is of course some babies just won’t latch, some babies are too poorly, some mothers are too poorly. It’s unfair to judge these mums for not breastfeeding and to tell them they are bad parents. Don’t you think they already feel enough guilt of their own?! I hate hate hate these mums who think they are superior in some one because they breastfed. Not that I am saying that all mums who breastfeed think they are superior to formula-feeding mums because they are not. I have seen some amazing support on Twitter from breastfeeding mums so thank you!

I stayed in hospital for 5 days with my little man. He wouldn’t feed (the shock of a c-section and the drugs I had made him a bit drowsy!). He lost A LOT of body weight, was crying he was hungry. I was trying to recover from a major operation. It was our first child and it was all just to much – so I switched to bottle feeding – best decision I ever made. Breastfeeding just wasn’t working out – so it’s either formula feed or what a poorly baby? A starved baby? Yeah I know which option I’m going with thanks!

There are those out there who’s babies are tube fed as they are poorly. It may have been breast milk it may have been formula – does it matter – no! When they recover slightly, sometimes bottle feeding works better for them. You don’t know how ill the mother has been, you don’t know how ill the baby has been. They may have been to hell and back. For them they are just thankful their baby is alive and well – so Yes Fed is Best!

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22 thoughts on “Fed Is Best – Tube-fed, Bottle-fed or Breastfed It’s All Good

    • mummyitsok Post author

      Same with me I feel the guilt contributed to my PND – felt as though I had failed as a mum. Which of course is silly I know I did the best I could, but at the time it’s so hard! Yup Fed Is Best!

  • Yumfreeblog

    Exactly fed is best and that’s what we should be saying. Why is the first question you get asked after giving birth by friends and family is are you breastfeeding them. Why does that matter.

  • Laura @ Mama, Eden & Me

    I wrote something similar in my latest post. I love “Fed is Best”. And it’s totally true. I’ve had some hateful comments about it but to be honest I’m not engaging with those folk. If you can’t see that feeding your baby is best, regardless of how you do t, you’re barking up the wrong tree.

    You’re doing a great job xx

    • mummyitsok Post author

      Aw thanks! Glad you love it. Yeah I’ve had some not great comments on a Facebook board I’m on but hey what can you do, there’s always those out there that love to judge to make themselves feel better!

  • Amanda

    Thank you!!! My story sounds very similar to yours plus a lip tie. One midwife at the hospital told me that I couldn’t use their formula to feed my baby because if I was planning on formula feeding I should have brought my own to the hospital. I was blessed to have a friend who donated milk to me so my baby had one bottle of breastmilk a day until he was 6 months old, we breastfed for as long as we could, topped up with formula both via bottle or supply line/tube. Fed is best is my mantra and whatever your situation is Mum, you’re doing a good job. Xxx

  • Julie S.

    Completely agree! I did a combination of both breast and formula, and got flack from both sides of the fence. Fed is best. Babies need food, the how is really not anyone’s business.
    #weekendblogshare

  • Anne G

    I like what you have written, “tube, bottle or breastfed it’s all good”, but I don’t think that is what Fed is Best is all about. I think it is a spiteful mantra aimed at shaming people who believe that breastfeeding matters. 0.02

  • Tiffany Washko

    I personally cannot stand Fed is Best. First it implies that not even feeding the baby is an option, which is dumb. Secondly it is taking aim at breastfeeding advocates. Breast usually is best in most circumstances. It is a disservice NOT to make moms aware of that. Making informed choices is important.

    • Zoe

      Yes! Breast really is best. By this, breast is the optimum fuel for your baby. This is not saying that formula doesn’t have its place and there are many mothers that have struggled with breastfeeding (and sadly, often, lack of support when it doesn’t go right) that need formula. However, we don’t care if you formula feed. Own that decision. Don’t sit there spurting out “fed is best” because honestly fed is the absolute bare minimum, and thank goodness you are actually feeding your baby. Breastfeeding didn’t work out for you? You didn’t want to breastfeed? That’s ok. You don’t need to explain (defend) yourself mama. You do what works for you.

  • Chani

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this! It is so true, and there are so many things that happen surrounding a mothers decision how to feed her babe. End the guilt and fight. Let’s unite!

    • mummyitsok Post author

      Thank you Emily! It’s so lovely to hear from moms who support both types of feeding and who are supportive of everyone’s choice 🙂

  • Sarah

    I loved reading this post. I couldn’t breastfeed too for very similar reasons to yourself and I am so happy that I turned to formula. My baby was crying for food but he had tongue tie that couldn’t get fixed in time for us to carry of breastfeeding. So rather than leave my baby to starve it was best to feed him formula. I’m so happy with my decision and I’m proud of all the mummas out there for however they feed their babies. <3

    Sarah
    http://www.justbuttonsblog.co.uk

  • Laura Delaney

    I love a breastfeeding post. And you have written this fantastically! I have to disagree as I do believe breast is what is best for a baby, and I think many mothers do know this. But in certain circumstances, FED is best! If you’re unable to breastfeed or perhaps baby was very premature and couldn’t latch. There are so many reasons as to why some mums choose to feed their babies formula milk. Great post xxx

  • Heather Johnson

    Fed is adequate. Breast is best. Adequate means “satisfactory or acceptable in quality or quantity.” Best means “of the most excellent, effective, or desirable type or quality.” Saying breast is best does not mean that breast is the only way. But the fact is that breastfeeding provides many benefits and advantages that formula cannot. Additionally, who is saying that “unfed is best”? Breast is best and fed is best are not counterarguments.