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Fed Is Best – Tube-fed, Bottle-fed or Breastfed It’s All Good
‘Fed is Best’ is something I’ve come across on several social media accounts and blogs – and I have to say I think it’s wonderful – but I will add a couple of my own tweaks to this as it has been causing offence to some mothers.
When we say ‘Fed is Best’ we do not mean it as an optional statement – where by we are saying its best to feed your baby – but you don’t have to. This is NOT what Fed is Best is trying to portray in any way shape or form – its is in direct response to the ‘Breast is Best’ where by we mean its OK if its breast or formula milk.
The idea behind ‘Fed is Best’ is that however you choose to feed your baby – breast, bottle, tube fed it’s all great! And I have to agree. You never know what a mother and baby has been through. It’s unfair to judge them depending on if the breast or bottle-fed.
Too many times on parenting sites and blogs I have seen articles about how ‘Breast is Best’. Some of the comments directed towards formula feeders have been totally unacceptable and clearly hurtful.
I have witnessed some mums being told they are terrible parents, are poisoning their babies with formula milk and don’t deserve to be parents. I find it really sad to see mums upsetting other mums because they chose a different path. Especially as on many occasions the mum who is formula feeding desperately tried to breast feed but for whatever reason couldn’t – we feel enough ‘Mum Guilt‘ of our own.
Fed Is Best – The Reality
The reality is of course some babies just won’t latch, some babies are too poorly, some mothers are too poorly. It’s unfair to judge these mums for not breastfeeding and to tell them they are bad parents. Don’t you think they already feel enough guilt of their own?! I hate hate hate these mums who think they are superior in some one because they breastfed. Not that I am saying that all mums who breastfeed think they are superior to formula-feeding mums because they are not. I have seen some amazing support on Twitter from breastfeeding mums so thank you!
I stayed in hospital for 5 days with my little man. He wouldn’t feed (the shock of a c-section and the drugs I had made him a bit drowsy!). He lost A LOT of body weight, was crying he was hungry. I was trying to recover from a major operation. It was our first child and it was all just to much – so I switched to bottle feeding – best decision I ever made. Breastfeeding just wasn’t working out – so it’s either formula feed or what a poorly baby? A starved baby? Yeah I know which option I’m going with thanks!
There are those out there who’s babies are tube fed as they are poorly. It may have been breast milk it may have been formula – does it matter – no! When they recover slightly, sometimes bottle feeding works better for them. You don’t know how ill the mother has been, you don’t know how ill the baby has been. They may have been to hell and back. For them they are just thankful their baby is alive and well – so Yes Fed is Best!
Mummy It’s OK – You’re Doing Great!