How To Help Someone With Postpartum Depression

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How To Help Someone With Postpartum Depression

Knowing how to help someone with postpartum depression can be very difficult. It’s not a much discussed topic and family and friends are often left wondering and unsure how is best to help someone with their postpartum depression recovery.

They have their own fight plus a baby to look after which is very changeling for all involved.

It’s a question I’ve heard often ‘my partner/wife has postnatal depression, how can I help them?’

Postpartum depression sufferers often continue to look after their little one perfectly fine. However, in the process they neglect themselves and their needs.

As a mum with postpartum depression these are my recommendations as to how to help someone with postpartum depression.

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How To Help Someone With Postnatal Depression

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My Top 10 Ways You Can Help Someone With Postpartum Depression

1. She Needs To Eat. It’s tough to have an appetite when your not 100% and your sleep deprived. Make your partner something to eat even if it’s just a simple sandwich and packet of crisps – if you don’t do it she probably won’t. Sometimes we need help with even just the basics like eating.

2. Offer to watch the little one and suggest she has a nice long bubble bath. It’s tough when someone needs you 24/7 and even something as simple as some peace and quiet to have a bath can really help, some days we’re lucky to grab a quick shower. It’s important to have ‘alone time’ and just do what you want to do.

3. Make sure she gets some sleep – this is a tough one with a baby. Do you have parents who could have your little one for a night to try and get some rest? Make sure she understands that it’s OK to sleep when the baby sleeps and that you don’t expect her to being doing cooking and cleaning – but resting herself to.

4. Make sure she knows she is a wonderful mother and you’re proud of her for getting the help she needs. Admitting you need help is a big step for someone with postpartum depression – it’s important for her to know she’s done the right thing.

5. Reassure her that you’re not going anywhere, you’re in this together and you’ll be there no matter what. She could be thinking that you and the baby would be better off without her – this illness makes you think things you wouldn’t normally.

6. Explain to her a happy mum is a happy baby. There’s no shame in taking 5 minutes out for yourself or having someone babysit for a couple of hours. Everyone needs a break. No-one is the perfect mum – good enough is perfect enough.

7. Explain to her that this is an illness just like any other and that she will get better. Postpartum Depression Recovery takes time but we all get there in our own time.

8. Take time everyday to ask how she really is – fine often isn’t fine – explain that you’re there to listen and help her not to judge. Explain she can tell you anything no matter how ‘out there’ it may seem.

9. Make sure she keeps up with any medication provided by the GP & that she attends all necessary appointments. The antidepressants do help but it’s important to keep taking them in order to get better.

10. Be patient with her, some days it’s tough to make sense of your own thoughts and feelings let alone understand anything else.

Mummy It’s OK – You’re Doing Great!

Hi! I’m Julie. I write about all things related to mum life. I’m also a postpartum depression survivor. I love helping mum start their mum blog journey and I have step-by-step guides to help!


  1. February 26, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    Amazing post as I’m sure partners are only wanting to help with the PND but just dont know how. It’s such an awful mental illness so anything that can make it slightly more bearable is worth doing. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays! Kaye xo

    • mummyitsok
      February 27, 2016 / 3:07 am

      It must be really difficult for them to know what to do and say at times. PND is tough on the whole family not just the mummy xx

  2. February 28, 2016 / 8:08 am

    Amazing post thank you. I’ve struggled since having my baby and my husband has been a great support but getting him to read this will also be a huge help. Thank you for sharing xx #KCACOLS

    • mummyitsok
      February 28, 2016 / 2:41 pm

      Glad you found it helpful, having a baby definitely is hard work xx

  3. February 28, 2016 / 9:16 am

    A really great and important post and you have given some great tips for helping to support a loved one with PND. #KCACOLS

    • mummyitsok
      June 2, 2016 / 7:35 pm

      Thank you

  4. February 28, 2016 / 4:23 pm

    Great advice…as I’ve been through it myself. It’s so hard to take care of ourselves when depression strikes. We need the help of others and for them to be aware of our needs! #KCACOLS

    • mummyitsok
      June 2, 2016 / 7:36 pm

      Defiantly – we don’t always realise we need the help of others at the time but they play such an important part in our recovery

  5. February 29, 2016 / 8:08 pm

    so tough. Thanks for your post. It can be so difficult to know what to do. The answer is that you just need to be empathetic and care. #KCACOLS

  6. February 29, 2016 / 9:17 pm

    Great advice, have been through this myself five times over and know that for some it is hard to know how to react to our depression. #MarvMondays

    • mummyitsok
      June 2, 2016 / 7:37 pm

      It can be really hard for those around us, it’s so easy to push away the people we love most

  7. March 1, 2016 / 6:05 pm

    Fantastic advice – especially number 10! x #marvmondays

  8. March 1, 2016 / 9:21 pm

    I was lucky enough not to have to go through this, but this sounds like really helpful advice for supporting a new mother through post natal depression. #KCACOLS

  9. March 5, 2016 / 7:19 pm

    These are really good tips for all that mums out there suffering from PND. I’m sure this will be very helpful. I didn’t experience this but I find it very interesting to read how other people felt and what they did. Great advice. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I’m very happy to have you for the first time, I hope that you like it. I would love to see you again tomorrow! 🙂 x

  10. April 16, 2016 / 8:24 pm

    Fantastic tips (I made my husband read them) its the little things that make the difference when you are feeling low and sleep deprived, just the act of someone passing you a sandwich unprompted can make all the difference. Thanks for linking up #PuddingLove

  11. April 18, 2016 / 8:25 am

    Some great advice for partners on how to help with PND. Partners play a huge role in assisting sufferers and helping them is often something that is neglected. Many of them just don’t know what to do. This list of advice is simple yet they a things that can make a huge difference x #Brilliantblogpost

    • mummyitsok
      April 18, 2016 / 8:22 pm

      It’s so true the support of your partner can make a huge difference to your recovery. It’s a shame there’s not more advice for them out there as to how they can help xxx

  12. April 18, 2016 / 4:18 pm

    Although I have never suffered from PND myself, this article is great! Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful and insightful post, with points that can enable us to help those that are battling with PND. #brillblogposts

    • mummyitsok
      April 18, 2016 / 8:16 pm

      I think it can be really hard for those supporting PND suffers to know what to do. Hopefully this post will give them a few points as to how to help their loved ones xx

  13. April 29, 2016 / 7:18 pm

    Great post. The most important one for me is just to LISTEN. I wish that others had offered to lend an ear when I was suffering at my worst. So many didn’t know what to say and instead of simply being there, they distanced themselves from me which only fuelled my depression. Really great post. #brilliantblogposts

  14. May 29, 2016 / 7:20 am

    Such an important post – I have been lucky enough to not have suffered from PND but I did struggle with my first and some of these tips definitely would of helped. #kcacol

  15. May 31, 2016 / 12:19 am

    I love this post both as a mother who has dealt with it and as a mental health professional. It’s not something that people talk about enough in my opinion. All of these would be so helpful especially to a spouse or partner who maybe hasn’t dealt with this kind of thing before. Great post! #KCACOLS

    • mummyitsok
      June 2, 2016 / 7:39 pm

      Definitely, postnatal depression is tough on the whole family unit as well as the mother X

  16. May 31, 2016 / 7:34 am

    Spot on advice, lovely. It must be so difficult to support someone going through PND but you gave some great pointers here x #kcacols

  17. May 31, 2016 / 12:17 pm

    Good advice and really easy to read and follow too – thank you. It’s not always easy to spot – but I think this advice can be helpful for all new mum’s, not just those suffering with PND #KCACOLS

  18. June 3, 2016 / 4:09 pm

    Hi lovely, I have already commented this post before as you linked it up a few weeks ago. But I still think that these are really good tips for all that mums out there suffering from PND. Thanks for sharing this again at #KCACOLS. Hope you join us again on Sunday, 🙂 x

  19. July 23, 2016 / 1:51 pm

    Great tips. Being a mom I know how it feels. I’ve felt with it. Simple things like this really helps to a person who is dealing with it. Thank you for sharing.

  20. August 15, 2016 / 8:37 am

    Yes lovingkindness and compassion are the way to go with anyone suffering. It heals both hearts and is the most wonderful action ever.

  21. August 22, 2016 / 7:20 pm

    Awesome post. Your tips are wonderful.

  22. August 22, 2016 / 8:03 pm

    This is a great list. Hopefully people will take this on board and help their partners.

  23. October 3, 2017 / 12:08 pm

    This is a great post I just think about the single mothers who don’t have a partner… Honestly, these women are heroic in my eyes and have my full respect. In that case it needs to be their family and friends who cooperate and make sure this women never stays alone while suffering from PPD. I suffered from it myself and what really helped me was talking… and when I saw people really listened to me. That was the most important thing that helped me to get out of that hell. xxx

  24. mummyswaisted
    March 20, 2018 / 2:17 pm

    This is a really important concept that more people should be aware of! It would save a lot of explaining (and bickering) if friends and family were prepared for what’s to come #readysetlink

  25. March 20, 2018 / 9:23 pm

    This is a fantastic and informative post. When I first had a a baby it was terrifying and needed lost.of reassurance to help me. I still do now as I really struggle with my thoughts. I think sleep has such a big impact as well so if you can get sleep. X #readysetlink

  26. March 21, 2018 / 11:51 am

    Great post, I suffered with PND after my second baby was born and my partner found it hard to know what to say to me most of the time, he was brilliant through out the toughest part, he made sure that me and my two babies had everything we needed and he made sure that I got some me time! PND is still something that needs more awareness, I try to post my experiences on my blog in the hope that it helps others. x

  27. March 21, 2018 / 11:54 am

    What a great, informative post. I think it’s so important to help new mums as much as possible. xx

  28. March 21, 2018 / 9:54 pm

    Great article, we definitely need to raise awareness on this, its so easy to slip into depression after having a baby. #readysetlink

  29. March 21, 2018 / 11:48 pm

    There are some very important and helpful tips here! I feel like sometimes its hard to know what to do to help someone when they need it most. #readysetlink

  30. March 22, 2018 / 3:38 pm

    Some great tips. Thank you for sharing them! #ReadySetLink

  31. momfire82
    March 23, 2018 / 11:05 am

    Great post! Wish I had some of these tips when a friend of mine went through this, but now I can lean on these if there’s ever a next time.

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