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How To Help Someone With Postpartum Depression

How To Help Someone With Postpartum Depression

Knowing how to help someone with postpartum depression can be very difficult. It’s not a much discussed topic and family and friends are often left wondering and unsure how is best to help someone with their postpartum depression recovery.

They have their own fight plus a baby to look after which is very changeling for all involved.

It’s a question I’ve heard often ‘my partner/wife has postnatal depression, how can I help them?’

Postpartum depression sufferers often continue to look after their little one perfectly fine. However, in the process they neglect themselves and their needs.

As a mum with postpartum depression these are my recommendations as to how to help someone with postpartum depression.

How To Help Someone With Postnatal Depression

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My Top 10 Ways You Can Help Someone With Postpartum Depression

1. She Needs To Eat. Β It’s tough to have an appetite when your not 100% and your sleep deprived. Make your partner something to eat even if it’s just a simple sandwich and packet of crisps – if you don’t do it she probably won’t.

2. Offer to watch the little one and suggest she has a nice long bubble bath – it’s tough when someone needs you 24/7 and even something as simple as some peace and quiet to have a bath can really help, some days we’re lucky to grab a quick shower.

3. Make sure she gets some sleep – this is a tough one with a baby, do you have grandparents who could have your little one for a night to try and get some rest.

4. Make sure she knows she is a wonderful mother and you’re proud of her for getting the help she needs.

5. Reassure her that you’re not going anywhere, you’re in this together and you’ll be there no matter what.

6. Explain to her a happy mum is a happy baby. There’s no shame in taking 5 mins out for yourself or having someone babysit for a couple of hours. Everyone needs a break.

7. Explain to her that this is an illness just like any other and that she will get better.

8. Take time everyday to ask how she really is – fine often isn’t fine – explain that you’re there to listen and help her not to judge. Explain she can tell you anything no matter how ‘out there’ it may seem.

9. Make sure she keeps up with any medication provided by the GP & that she attends all necessary appointments. The antidepressants do help but it’s important to keep taking them in order to get better.

10. Be patient with her, some days it’s tough to make sense of your own thoughts and feelings let alone understand anything else.

Mummy It’s OK – You’re Doing Great!

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Amazing post as I’m sure partners are only wanting to help with the PND but just dont know how. It’s such an awful mental illness so anything that can make it slightly more bearable is worth doing. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays! Kaye xo

Fi - Beauty Baby and Me

Amazing post thank you. I’ve struggled since having my baby and my husband has been a great support but getting him to read this will also be a huge help. Thank you for sharing xx #KCACOLS


A really great and important post and you have given some great tips for helping to support a loved one with PND. #KCACOLS

Mommy Muddling

Great advice…as I’ve been through it myself. It’s so hard to take care of ourselves when depression strikes. We need the help of others and for them to be aware of our needs! #KCACOLS


so tough. Thanks for your post. It can be so difficult to know what to do. The answer is that you just need to be empathetic and care. #KCACOLS

laura dove

Great advice, have been through this myself five times over and know that for some it is hard to know how to react to our depression. #MarvMondays


Fantastic advice – especially number 10! x #marvmondays

Silly Mummy

I was lucky enough not to have to go through this, but this sounds like really helpful advice for supporting a new mother through post natal depression. #KCACOLS

A Moment with Franca

These are really good tips for all that mums out there suffering from PND. I’m sure this will be very helpful. I didn’t experience this but I find it very interesting to read how other people felt and what they did. Great advice. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I’m very happy to have you for the first time, I hope that you like it. I would love to see you again tomorrow! πŸ™‚ x

Petite Pudding

Fantastic tips (I made my husband read them) its the little things that make the difference when you are feeling low and sleep deprived, just the act of someone passing you a sandwich unprompted can make all the difference. Thanks for linking up #PuddingLove

Laura Edwards

Some great advice for partners on how to help with PND. Partners play a huge role in assisting sufferers and helping them is often something that is neglected. Many of them just don’t know what to do. This list of advice is simple yet they a things that can make a huge difference x #Brilliantblogpost

One Messy Mama

Although I have never suffered from PND myself, this article is great! Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful and insightful post, with points that can enable us to help those that are battling with PND. #brillblogposts

laura dove

Great post. The most important one for me is just to LISTEN. I wish that others had offered to lend an ear when I was suffering at my worst. So many didn’t know what to say and instead of simply being there, they distanced themselves from me which only fuelled my depression. Really great post. #brilliantblogposts


Such an important post – I have been lucky enough to not have suffered from PND but I did struggle with my first and some of these tips definitely would of helped. #kcacol

Lisa Robb (@workingmumy)

Great tips! I think its something that should be spoken about more widely. Not just the person suffering with PND but also they people who need to go through it with them.
Great post!


I love this post both as a mother who has dealt with it and as a mental health professional. It’s not something that people talk about enough in my opinion. All of these would be so helpful especially to a spouse or partner who maybe hasn’t dealt with this kind of thing before. Great post! #KCACOLS


Spot on advice, lovely. It must be so difficult to support someone going through PND but you gave some great pointers here x #kcacols


Good advice and really easy to read and follow too – thank you. It’s not always easy to spot – but I think this advice can be helpful for all new mum’s, not just those suffering with PND #KCACOLS

Franca Desjardins

Hi lovely, I have already commented this post before as you linked it up a few weeks ago. But I still think that these are really good tips for all that mums out there suffering from PND. Thanks for sharing this again at #KCACOLS. Hope you join us again on Sunday, πŸ™‚ x


Great tips. Being a mom I know how it feels. I’ve felt with it. Simple things like this really helps to a person who is dealing with it. Thank you for sharing.


Yes lovingkindness and compassion are the way to go with anyone suffering. It heals both hearts and is the most wonderful action ever.


Awesome post. Your tips are wonderful.


This is a great list. Hopefully people will take this on board and help their partners.

james Harding

Some really good tips and advice πŸ™‚

Ivanka Poku

This is a great post I just think about the single mothers who don’t have a partner… Honestly, these women are heroic in my eyes and have my full respect. In that case it needs to be their family and friends who cooperate and make sure this women never stays alone while suffering from PPD. I suffered from it myself and what really helped me was talking… and when I saw people really listened to me. That was the most important thing that helped me to get out of that hell. xxx