Every mom knows that this past year was an especially stressful one. From stay-at-home moms to single moms, every type of mom has gone above and beyond to keep their homes running and keep their kids safe and engaged in school. It’s time for some great self-care ideas for moms!
Moms have to find time to take care of themselves to stay sane and continue to “mom” through the rest of the pandemic. Mother’s Day is the perfect opportunity to cash in that “mom time” for some much-needed self-care. This Mother’s Day, we encourage all moms to use the time to take care of themselves and help soothe any hints of mommy burnout.
In this article, we’ll discuss 16 different self-care ideas for moms of different kinds. Each type needs devoted self-care activities that cater to their needs.
16 Different Self-Care Ideas For Moms
For Moms Who Are Essential Workers
Moms as caregivers are always essential, but for the moms who are also teachers, health care providers, or other types of essential employees we applaud your ability to balance it all. I geared the following ideas towards helping you have “wind-down” time.
1. Physically and Mentally Check Out
Sometimes all you need is private time to check out and turn your brain off. Medical professional Dr. Ben Crocker, recommends “Intentionally creating ‘shutdown’ time in your schedule”. He says, “This can be a healthy time alone, for meditation and quietude.”
2. Lean on Colleagues
When working in high-stress environments, it’s important to lean on your colleagues for support and comradery. Check-in with colleagues (who are and aren’t moms) and let them know you’re also struggling as a way of normalizing their feelings. Finding meaning in helping others can build a support system and create normalcy in a chaotic time.
3. Communicate Boundaries
Creating and communicating personal boundaries can allow moms to feel like they are in control and safe.
Dr. MarianaBockarova, a psychologist and psychology professor at the University of Toronto told SheKnows, “Whether it be in our work or personal lives, [boundaries are important] because they allow us the freedom of choosing what is right and best for ourselves, in a way that keeps us psychologically healthy.”
4. Ask For Help
Many moms depend on extended family for help but have found it more difficult to get the help they need now with social distancing rules in order. To safely allow for that special bonding time between extended family and children, invite relatives to teach an online lesson once a week. This will free up time for moms to do things for themselves.
For Working Moms
Before the pandemic, moms could compartmentalize tasks while kids were out of the house or at school, however now many are left to multitask and juggle many roles simultaneously. To help working moms prioritize time for self-care, we’ve sourced the following ideas.
5. Be Inspired
Inspiration can come from anywhere, but many busy moms don’t have time to take a class or even read a book. If the most you have time for is putting on something in the background while doing other tasks, why not try listening to an inspirational or thought-provoking podcast? Podcasts are a hands-free way to gain a new perspective on life and feel motivated and inspired.
Many working moms feel glued to their phones or devices and have a hard time separating life from work now that we are all working from home. Unplugging from phones or computers allows your mind and body to slow down and not feel so stress or dependent on it.
7. Get Creative
If you’re a mom who feels burnt out, sometimes the best thing is to do something creative that flexes a different muscle in your brain. Young adult author Lillian Clark told Brit + Co, “Don’t feel guilty for choosing yourself sometimes. Take a long shower. Sit in a coffee shop and daydream. It is so easy to funnel all of your physical, emotional, and creative energy into your kid. But it’s vital to maintain who you are as separate from being a mom too.”
8. Put it in Writing
“If it isn’t scheduled, it isn’t real,” TEDx Speaker, Lifestyle Expert and Holistic Nutritionist Rebecca Cafiero told Working Mother says about blocking off time on her calendar for self-care. Whether you schedule self-care during the workday while kiddos are entertained or on the weekends where activities can be more predictable, finding a reoccurring time that works for you is key.
For Single Moms
As a single mom, you can’t turn to your partner for support, so practicing self-care can at times bring on more mom guilt. The self-care ideas we’ve listed don’t require a babysitter, and won’t take up much of your time.
9. Wake Up Earlier
Using your kids as an alarm clock is not a mindful way to start your morning. Early risers are more likely to expect problems and solve them efficiently, as well as have a more positive outlook on life. Wake up before your kids so that you can properly prepare for the day and feel more in control.
10. Find a Support Group
As a single parent, support systems are powerful. There, you can talk through the highs and lows of solo parenting and gain support and advice when needed. When looking for an appropriate support group, it is best to search locally so you don’t have to travel far in case you end up meeting several times a week.
11. Lend a Helping Hand
As a single mom, you’re constantly helping others, but lending a hand to someone in need can have major mood-boosting benefits. Besides boosting oxytocin and dopamine, being kind can also increase serotonin, a neurotransmitter that helps regulate your mood.
12. Talk to a Professional
There’s nothing wrong with asking for help, and as a single mom, doing so might be just what you need to get through this difficult time. Organizations like Better Health allow moms to connect one-on-one with a licensed counselor from the safety of their home.
For Stay-At-Home Moms
Next up are stay-at-home moms! These self-care ideas can be done alone or with your kids next to you.
13. Make Time for Meditation
Along with mindfulness, a meditation practice can be beneficial for stressed-out and fatigued stay-at-home mothers. Studies show the benefits of incorporating a meditation practice, ranging from less stress and more focus. By training your mind to focus on the present moment, you are less likely to dwell on negatives, what-ifs, or worst-case scenarios, decreasing your overall anxiety.
14. Vent it Out
Venting to another mom can grant you the perspective you need to feel like you aren’t alone in this journey. Whether that be your mother, a friend or a colleague, talking about the highs and lows of motherhood can be very beneficial for your mental health.
15. Write in a Journal
Journaling can help moms clarify their thoughts and feelings as well as reflect on the positives in their lives. Journaling has also been shown to reduce stress and ease anxiety and depression.
16. Prioritize “Mom” Time
It might feel selfish at first, but by taking time for yourself regularly, you show your children that you and your interests matter and that their mom is happy and fulfilled. Initially, practicing self-care might feel more like self-guilt, but as time goes on, you will create a standard of wellness and personal development in your household.
I hope you consider incorporating some of these self-care ideas into your schedule. Every mom deserves to be showered in gratitude and love on Mother’s Day, so whether you’re treating yourself or being pampered by loved ones, we hope it inspires you to continue practicing self-care every day!
Happy Mother’s Day!