4 Daily Struggles Of The Working Mother
The daily struggles of the working mother are very real. There’s so much to plan and organise to a strict schedule. This would be perfect if children stuck to time schedules but they are the worst at it – ‘hurry up’ or ‘put your shoes on please’ to them means OK I’ll sit and watch more Paw Patrol on the telly mummy. *sigh*
Daily Struggles Of The Working Mother – 1. Getting Up and Ready
This for me is the worst part of the day of being a working mum. Getting yourself and a 3 year old up and ready to go out dead on 8.00am is painful.
Most days our routine goes something similar to this. I get up and go downstairs with little man at 5.00am after he’s awoken for the day. We have to get up because he’s hungry (again!).
Whilst he sits and eats something totally unsuitable for breakfast and watches Power Rangers Dino Thingy, I sit and drink my cup of tea in an attempt to wake up. I also try and have a quick skim through my social media and bloggy stuff.
Whilst this is going on dad has a shower and gets dressed for work – which is sometimes simple and sometimes involves the toddler consistently going up and down the stairs and getting in the way, usually he’s chasing the cat up and down the stairs too.
When dad comes down it’s my turn to to go and get dressed for work. I love this 20-25mins in the morning, all by myself nice and quiet. It certainly beats getting shot at with a gun. Most days I go for the obligatory mum leggings, a top, ankle boots and of course the very fashionable mum bun!
Now for the worst part – getting the 3 year old ready. I’m still at a loss as to explain how it takes longer to dress a small child than it does two fully grown adults! It’s like talking to yourself asking them to come get dressed, they are too busy in zombie mode watching the television. To begin with I start with ‘If you don’t come here i’ll count to five! Then it steps up a level – ‘Come here or I’m turning off the telly’ last but not least ‘Come here or I’m telling Daddy!’
Sometimes he likes to make it in to a little game. I have to catch him as he’s running around to try and get the t-shirt over he’s head. He thinks it’s hilarious – me – not so much – time is ticking. I think I must shout ‘put your shoes on’ a good million times before we get out the door – then just as we are going out the door he’ll remember he’s forgotten to get a toy for show and tell so off he trots to find one.
By the time we are all sat in the car ready to go I’m already stressed to the max and I haven’t even gotten anywhere yet! It’s going to be a long day.
Daily Struggles Of The Working Mother – 2. Being At Work
Now I’m at work at 8.30am I can start my days work In Work Mode. I always find it funny switching from Mum Mode to Work Mode. I feel like I’m two different people living two different lives.
My work day can be tough and stressful, some days I don’t get a minutes peace to myself and come 5.00pm I’m shattered – especially because I’ve been up since 5.00am!
Whilst at work I miss my little man lots, but I know he’s having a great time socialising and playing with this friends. He learns to much like counting, the alphabet and writing his name – he’s a smart kid for 3 years old.
Mum Guilt is the worst – even though I know he’s having an amazing time I do feel bad that I don’t get to spend much time with him during the week. I see him from about 5.00am until 8.30am then 5.15pm until about 7.00pm. I am grateful I’ve got this time though as I know it’s worse for other working parents. At least I do get to see him before and after work, I know it could be worse.
Work does have some advances I get to eat my lunch and go to the loo in peace and quiet without a small child in tow or trying to steal my sandwich. Some days I feel like I’m just counting down the time until it’s time to see him, other days it’s so busy I don’t even get a chance to think about him – which only adds to the Mum Guilt.
Daily Struggles Of The Working Mother – 3. Going Home
Its 5.00pm you’ve finally finish your work for the day. You’ve been up 12 hours now, but its time to go back in to Mum Mode. First job is to collect the little on from nursery.
Battling the 5.00pm rush hour traffic I make my way from work to his nursery. Winter time is the worst as it’s usually cold, wet and pitch black as well. When I arrive I have to fight for a parking space in their minute car park with my mum 4×4.
When I get in there though it’s worth it. He’s so happy to see me and I get a nice cuddle. Getting out the door can be a slow process. We have to put his coat on. Then sign multiple accident forms he’s had for the day and try and find his toy that he took for show and tell because he’s put it somewhere and cant remember where!
Getting into the car is the next part. He has to wave goodbye to his friends through the windows first. Then we can get in at a snails pace. I’ve stood there many a times in the pouring rain like FFS Will You Just Get In The Car – I WANT TO GO HOME!!!
By the time we’re in and ready to go someone has parked behind us to pick up their child. So now I’m stuck in the car park. There’s not enough room to move so I have to wait for them to come back and move. By now little man has decided he wants to home right now and is moaning why aren’t we going yet mummy – I want to see Daddy! Trust me kid if I could go I would. Even with front and rear parking sensors we aren’t getting out of this space any time soon.
Why is it the drive home is always awful? Everyone seems to cut me up or not let me out. I think at this time of the evening people forget they have indicators! After battling the traffic and road closures home (there always seems to be a road closed!) you arrive back home and park on the drive. I go to get little one out of the car – he’s fast asleep.
Great, now I’ve got to wake him up and try and keep him awake until 7.00pm. Do you know how hard it is to put up with a grumpy toddler who’s just been woken up after a full day of work and a drive home from hell? Yep I’m sure you’ve been there and feel my pain.
Daily Struggles Of The Working Mother – 4. Going To Bed
Bedtime! The best time of the day well sometimes it is. Because you’ve already woken up your little once getting out of the car, they have no found a new lease of life.
Am I the only who’s child also becomes magically hungry and thirsty before every bedtime lol? Nope thought not! What is with that! Any excuse as to not get in to bed hey!
Tomorrow we’ll do it all again 🙂 Hat’s off to all the other mums who feel my pain as with the struggles of a working mum!
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Hi! I’m Julie. I write about all things related to mum life. I’m also a postpartum depression survivor. I love helping mum start their mum blog journey and I have step-by-step guides to help!