5 Things To Know Before Going Back To Work After Maternity Leave
They say practice makes perfect. However, when it comes down to heading back to the office after you’ve been used to snuggling up with your little one, things are always hard and always different.
You will feel disoriented, and that is perfectly normal, considering that the transition you’re about to experience is one of the biggest during our lives.
We are working women that become mothers, that become working mothers. How cool and yet, terrifying is that, in terms of seeking for balance in our lives.
But if there’s something we can do to help each other out through this transition, that is most definitely sharing and preparing our fellow working mothers in what they’re about to experience, when going back to work after maternity leave.
Beware Of The Loaded Package Of Opinions
There will be co-workers doubting your ability to focus. Maybe some of them will even have the nerves to tell you that you should rather be home, providing child-care.
Some will question your skills, which by the way only get better and top up their level once you become a mum!
However, there will be other people who will empower you instead, distracting you every time you start worrying about what your child is doing, whether he got fed or if he is going through his sleeping schedule.
Hold on to these people, who will probably be other working mothers or just random positive people whose energy triggers you to be the best version of yourself.
Breakdowns Here And There Will Increase. And That’s OK
I mean, If you only think about it, it is tiring enough.
Going back and forth from cleaning dishes, changing diapers, settling lunch packages & rides to school to that drop-dead serious business attitude on which you also owe to do your best.
Call us super-humans, if you may!
So every once in a while, accept the fact that you’re made out of flesh, salty tears and feelings. And eventually, those tears will want to manifest themselves, when things get hard. Let them go, and breathe in!
You’ll be relieved. Sometimes they might even be tears of joy when you succeed professionally although you just got back in track. Embrace your wave of emotions!
You will constantly think of quitting.
This may vary from the personalities of women and how they feel about their workplace. Some women declared that they regain a sense of independence, regeneration and that they like to be involved in work dynamics.
However, the majority declared that on their initial phase of getting back to work, they will think about quitting countless times within the day. Some emerge with the idea of working from home and starting remote careers.
But whatever you decide, keep in mind that adapting takes time.
You being away from home is not necessarily a bad thing. You can delegate some of the responsibilities to your spouse, mother in law or the person who’s providing child-care for you.
And you will all get a hang of it perfectly fine, as you get used to trusting one another.
The law is in our favour this time, as it requires employers to provide break time and a private place for hourly paid employees to pump breast milk during the workday.
However, not everyone has the luxury to pump privately and in the most comfortable corners.
If you’re lucky, you will be able to discuss this with your boss before starting work.
Or you may have to settle with an empty office & occasionally empty conference room and be flexible when calculating the timing of your breaks.
Overcoming Trust Issues
When people tell you to calm down and believe in the fact that the child is doing just fine back home, you will sometimes want to punch them in the eye.
That’s because without you seeing them with your own eyes, supporting comments are useless and often frustrating.
That’s why it’s very important to invest in caregivers whom you trust in providing child-care.
The trusting bridge you will build with them is sacred, as they will save you from a whole lot of anxiety.
You Will Miss Your Toddlers
Frankly, this is the hardest of them all. Be prepared to have constant pauses of simply lingering over pictures of your baby, trying to make constant phone calls to check on what he is on to.
The thought of missing out on his firsts will haunt you out from time to time.
I am not saying this will diminish with time passing by because missing your children is an all-time evergreen feeling if you’re a working parent.
However, it does get easier. You learn to get by with it, and this way you also grow your children to become more solid, independent people who will learn how to appreciate quality time with their loved ones, because of the way you appreciate your time with them around your feet.
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