How To Be A Good Mother: The Qualities Of A Good Mother

Hey friend! Ever found yourself late at night, typing away, “How to be the best mom?” or maybe “Qualities of a perfect mom?” Oh honey, you and me both! It’s like a rite of passage for us moms, wondering if we’re getting this whole motherhood thing right.

But here’s a little secret between us: You are totally rocking the “best mom” vibe, even if there are days you might doubt it.

I remember when I was expecting, I buried myself in all these mom books. “How to Mom 101,” right? But let me spill the tea – books can’t teach you everything! The real lessons? They come with time, laughter, a few sleepless nights, and yes, some tears too.

Being the perfect mother isn’t about perfection. It’s about giving it your all, learning, growing, and sometimes… it’s about surviving those days when your little one figures out juuust the right way to test your patience! (Whew, they have a talent, don’t they?)

And, okay, there’ll be those oopsie moments because, hello, we’re all fabulously human. But that’s the beauty of it. We learn, we grow, and we become even better versions of our ‘best mom‘ selves.

So, here’s to us – the mamas giving it their all, learning on the go, and bouncing back from those “gone from best mom to wild mama in 0.5 seconds” moments. Cheers!

Top Qualities Of A Good Mom

1 – Be A Good Role Model

You are the first person your child ever knows. They’ve been with you right from when their little life was created.

As such, you are the first role model they have ever known. It’s important to be an exemplary role model for your kids. 

Kids copy and learn everything from their parents as they are growing up.

If you want them to say please and thank you, tidy up after themselves, or help others – then you need to do these things too.

Show them how they should behave, be the role model your kids need you to be.

You can’t expect your child to do these things if you aren’t willing to do them yourself.

2 – Set Boundaries And Rules

Children need boundaries to thrive. They need to know what they can and can’t do and when.

Therefore, it’s important to set clear boundaries so that they know what to expect.

You should always be consistent with these rules, too.

It’s no good changing them all the time. Your child will become confused as to what is expected of them.

The same is also true for when you have to discipline them.

The punishments need to be consistent. It’s no good one time not disciplining them for breaking a rule and the next time not.

You will send them mixed messages.

The punishment should fit the crime. Don’t give out a big punishment for a simple breaking of the rules – keep those for when they properly step out of line. 

3 – Be Respectful

Respect is two sided. If you want your child to show you respect, you also need to show and give them respect in return.

It doesn’t matter that they are much younger than you, or that you’re the adult. Respect should always be given. Remember what I said about being a wonderful role model earlier?

Kids need to learn how to show, and how to give respect.

4 – Be Supportive And Loving

Knowing you have the support and love of your parents should be something every child can always rely on.

They need our help and guidance throughout their lives, and as parents we should give it – no questions asked.

Right from being a baby all the way to be being grown up, we all need support and love.

I still need support from my parents, even though I’m fully grown as an adult with my family!

5 – Be Patient

Learning to be patient with your child can take time. They are always testing the rules and boundaries you have set. Seeing what they can and can’t get away with.

It can take them a while to understand and perfect what they should be doing.

Even something as simple as feeding themselves with a spoon can drive you to the edge of despair when it goes all over the floor again. 

However, it’s important to be patient with them. We all learn in our time and getting angry with them will not help their self-confidence.

I will not lie. This is the one I find the hardest. Patience is a lost art form on me! 

6 – Forgiveness

Your children will make mistakes. You need to forgive them when they go wrong. They are still learning.

After they have been disciplined, we should offer forgiveness with a few hugs and kisses for little ones.

Forgiveness works both ways. You too will make mistakes as a mum.

Don’t be afraid to ask for your child’s forgiveness if you are the one in the wrong – this teaches them a valuable life lesson.

That no-one is perfect, it’s OK to make mistakes, and that people should be forgiven as it’s not healthy to hold on to the negativity.

7 – Quality Time & Family Time

Spending quality time with your children to help them understand how much they mean to you. Plus, you can also teach them other valuable skills.

A good mom understands that family time is important. She makes time for her children every day, even if it’s just a few minutes. 

For example, you could play board games together to help them learn to take turns. Video games can help with hand-eye co-ordination. Spending quality time with your children can have a great impact on child development.

8 – Positive Parenting

One of the key qualities of a good mom is practicing positive parenting. Positive parenting is all about raising children in a way that focuses on their strengths, rather than their weaknesses. It’s about building them up, rather than tearing them down.

Some of the key principles of positive parenting include:

• Encouraging your child’s individuality
• Focusing on their strengths
• Helping them to develop a positive self-image
• Encouraging a healthy lifestyle
• Teaching them how to deal with emotions
• Building their self-esteem
• Providing structure and discipline in a loving way

These things are so important in helping our children to grow up to be happy, healthy and well-adjusted adults.

9 – Nurture Independence In Children

One of the most important qualities of a great mom is fostering independence in her children. It’s so important that our kids learn how to do things for themselves, rather than always relying on us to do things for them.

This doesn’t mean that we should never help them or do things for them. But it does mean that we should encourage them to do things for themselves as much as possible.

Some ways that you can nurture independence in your children include:

• Encouraging them to dress themselves
• Letting them help with simple household chores
• Allowing them to make their own choices (within reason)
• Teaching them how to solve problems
• Helping them to develop a strong work ethic
• Encouraging them to be creative

These things will help your children to grow into independent adults who can take care of themselves.

10 – Build Positive Healthy Relationships With Your Children

One of the most important things that you can do as a great mother is to build positive relationships with your children. This means spending time with them, listening to them, and being there for them when they need you.

It also means setting limits and boundaries in a loving and respectful way. It’s so important that our children feel loved and supported, but they also need to know that we are in charge and that they need to respect our authority.

Some ways that you can build positive relationships with your children include:

• Spending time with them every day
• Listening to them without judging or lecturing
• Being patient with them
• Encouraging them to express their feelings
• Respecting their individual needs and preferences
• Setting limits and boundaries in a loving way
• Making time for fun and play

These things will help you to build strong, positive relationships with your children.

What Are The Skills Of A Good Mother?

In order to qualify as a great mom, one has to develop certain parenting skills. These are the skills that make a good mom:

1. Positive Reinforcement

A perfect mom will not only spend time with her kids to ensure that they do well at school and in other aspects of life, but she will also acknowledge all the right things they have done by encouraging them, complimenting them, praising them whenever necessary.

2. Social Skills

Social skills are developed by spending time with other people. A perfect mom will arrange her child’s social life, take him/her to play dates and parties, enrol in school activities where the kid can interact with many different children his age.

3. Life Skills

There is no better mentor than a loving parent who teaches his/her child the basics of life, from basic financial management to the value of hard work.

4. Positive Behaviours

A good mom will try to learn from her own mistakes in the past and those she has seen other people make. She will use that knowledge to guide her child in making good decisions, showing him/her what is right and what is wrong, teaching him/her how to bring up his/her values in a positive way.

What Are The Responsibilities Of A Good Mother?

Being a mother is one of the most important jobs in the world. Mothers are responsible for teaching their children how to be caring, respectful and empathetic adults. The following list highlights the top 10  responsibilities of a mother:

1. Teach your child about gender equality and respect
2. Encourage independence from an early age
3. Help your child build self-esteem by complimenting them often on their accomplishments
4. Ensure your child values their body and the bodies of others by
5. Teach your child to take care of their body and mind by providing nutritious food, getting enough sleep, staying active and learning life skills like cooking
6. Discuss how bad behaviour is not acceptable
7. Teach empathy for others by showing how to be kind and understanding
8. Help your child to have a positive attitude towards their education
9. Help teach communication skills and manners. For example, teaching the importance of saying “please” or “thank you.”
10. Teach them to take care of their belongings by putting away toys, picking up dirty laundry, tidying up bedroom, etc

What Are The Most Important Characteristics Of A Good Mother?

I’ve been thinking long and hard about what qualities make a good mum and what is the main characteristic of a mother.

However, in the end I’ve decided this is too big a question for one mum/me to answer.

There are so many outlooks on being a mum. So I wanted to get a variety of responses from lots of different mums.

So I have asked some of my great blogging mummy friends what they thought too.

1. I Am River – I think the most important quality a mum can have is just believing in your children no matter what. I have two sons, the youngest has Down Syndrome, but I genuinely believe they will both achieve great things. Support and belief. The material stuff is just decoration.
2. My Boys Club – Always trying your best as a parent – no one can be the best at everything – and not only doing it yourself but also helping your children understand that.
3. Family Travel With Ellie – A good mum is one whose children can go to them at anytime and talk to them about anything with no fear of being judged. They know you will love and help them with whatever life throws at them.
4. The Money Whisperer – Listening is high up there. By always listening to a little person, we encourage them to talk to us whether it’s something good or bad, and we give them the skills to be a good listener themselves.
5. Mummy Cat Notes – One quality I feel that is important is trusting and believing your children, they need to know that while you can be tough; you have their side with everything, my son recently dealt with a bully at school (who pointed the blame at my son and his friend) and it took awhile for him to actually open up and tell me and I made it clear to him that he can trust me and that I was there for him and more importantly that I understand. 
6. Emma Reed – To be able to be there for your child no matter what and to provide them with a loving environment to grow up in.
7. Hello Little Lovely – Unconditional love and forgiveness. I think you need to give children a lot of grace in order for them to understand how to extend it to others.
8. Five Little Doves – Honesty. I am very honest with my children about the mistakes I have made, but I explain to them the reasons I made them and the regrets I have, I hope it prevents them from making the same mistakes as they grow.
9. Lylia Rose – Having oodles of patience definitely helps!
10. Mighty Mama Bear – Instilling the belief in children that they can achieve anything if they put their mind to it and encouraging them to dream. I think it’s so important that they have that self belief in a world of doubters and nay-sayers.

8 More Characteristics and Qualities Of A Good Mother

1. Carter Family 4 – Teaching my Son to have respect and be kind is one of the most important things I think.
2. Glasgow With Kids – There are so many things that can make you a good mum and everyone is different, so will have different strengths. For me, having a good sense of humour has been so important. I’ve found that to be my biggest strength in some situations, especially having 2 young children. I hate when I turn into ‘angry mum’ (which does still happen) but being able to see the funny side of things helps me to maintain my sanity and my patience when things go awry.
3. Thrifty Mum – Clean bum, full tum. Anything else is a bonus! Even on those days where you all just have to settle for “survival mode”-you’re still a good Mum.
4. Pink Pear Bear – Good cuddling skills. Cuddles are free and can be doled out anywhere. Taking the time to sit and watch TV with the kids and just cuddle them is a wonderful thing.
5. Crummy Mummy – Saying sorry when you’re in the wrong. I think that’s really important – after all, we’re all human…
6. Plutonium Sox – Thick skin! Whatever you do, someone will be there to tell you that you’re getting it wrong. You’re not getting it wrong, you know your children and the values that matter to you. Ignore the critics because to your children, you’re the best mum in the world.
7. And Another 10 Things – Being able to say sorry to them when you’ve done something wrong. It’s important to show them that no one is above making mistakes or apologising for them. 
8. Our Altered Life – As well as all the above, I’d say it’s important to have a good sense of humour. To model when to laugh at yourself and to keep things in perspective. Not everything that is a drama now is still a drama tomorrow. Always try to find the humour where you can.

Additional Characteristic Of A Mother

Blissful Domestication – So many qualities as already said above! For me, being a good mum is having time to put my kids’ requests to ‘my play Lego’ or ‘pretend to be a fairy’ at the top of my priority list and become part of their imaginative play.

Kelly Allen Writer – Good mothers are kind. Simple. I have been through a harsh stage, a shouty stage, a strict stage, and none of them worked or made me or the kids feel good. Kindness, however, costs nothing and makes everyone feel oh so good. Even on awful days, being kind fixes everything. That sounds pretty good to me.

Kate On Thin Ice – I consider myself good enough despite being rubbish in so many areas for instilling great and caring values and self care, into my 3 children and for keeping them safe from harm.

My Parenting Journey – I think one thing that I learned from my mom, which I am now applying to my child is giving unconditional love (I know, what a cliche right?) No matter what I did, my mother supported and loved me. She never gave up on me. Even when I was at my worst, she never left me. I may hear a few nags from her, but in the end she still helps me get through. I took all her love for granted, but in the end, the reason I turned my life around was because of her love.

How To Be A Good Mother In Law To Your Daughter In Law

Raising a family and being a good mom to your daughter-in-law can be both rewarding and challenging. Here are some tips on how to be a patient mother and a good mother-in-law to your daughter-in-law.

1. Respect her as an individual, regardless of any differences you may have. Treat her with kindness and understand that she is an important part of the family.

2. Spend quality time with your daughter-in-law and get to know her better. Take the time to talk, play, and bond with her so that she feels valued, loved, and appreciated.

3. Provide support for both your son- and daughter-in-law if they need it. You can help them with parenting, household tasks, or financial responsibilities when needed.

4. Encourage open communication between the two of you and let her express herself without judgment. Letting her ask questions and talk to you openly will help build trust in your relationship.

5. Show your daughter-in-law that you genuinely care about her and be available to answer questions or lend an ear when she needs it.

Being a good mother-in-law to your daughter-in-law is not always easy, but with dedication and patience, it can be done. With these tips in mind, you’ll have the knowledge necessary to build a successful and supportive relationship. Good luck!

How To Be A Good Mother When You Didn’t Have One

Raising a family when you didn’t have a good mother figure in your life can be both rewarding and challenging. Here are some tips on how to be a good mother when you don’t have the benefit of learning from one yourself.

1. Spend quality time with your children and listen to what they have to say. Take the time to talk, play, and bond with them so that they feel valued, loved, and appreciated.

2. Learn from resources such as books or online forums to understand what parenting entails. Strive to create a nurturing environment for your kids and provide them with all the love and emotional support that they need.

3. Educate yourself on the latest parenting trends, new ideas and advice. Reading up on the subject can help you stay abreast of the changes in child-rearing practices, so you can make informed decisions when it comes to raising your kids.

4. Encourage open communication and let them express themselves without judgment. Letting them ask questions and talk to you openly will help them feel more secure and closer to you.

5. Set healthy boundaries for your kids and make sure they respect them. Letting them know what the expectations are while also providing them with a nurturing environment will help them develop into responsible adults.

Being a good mother when you didn’t have one yourself is not always easy, but with dedication and patience, it can be done. With these tips in mind, you’ll have the knowledge necessary to raise successful and independent kids. Good luck!

Have a Positive Parenting Style:

Definition: Positive parenting is a proactive, non-punitive approach to raising children that emphasizes mutual respect, open communication, positive reinforcement, and understanding.

Key Elements:

• Positive Reinforcement: Rather than focusing on punishing negative behavior, positive parenting prioritizes rewarding and acknowledging positive actions, thus encouraging the repetition of such behavior.
• Active Listening: This involves giving undivided attention to your child, ensuring they feel heard and understood. It’s a tool to build trust and foster open communication.
• Setting Clear Boundaries: Clearly defined rules and consistent consequences help children understand expectations. However, the emphasis remains on explaining the “why” behind these rules.
• Encouraging Autonomy: This involves allowing children to make choices, fostering their independence, and supporting them to take responsibility for their actions.
• Problem Solving Together: Instead of dictating solutions, a positive parenting approach involves discussing issues with your child and coming up with solutions together.
• Empathy and Understanding: Recognizing and validating a child’s feelings, even if you don’t necessarily agree with their perspective, is crucial. It allows children to feel secure in expressing their emotions.
• Good Behavior: Encouraging good behavior is about more than just following rules. It involves understanding the underlying emotions and motivations of a child and guiding them towards making better choices.
• Reasonable Expectations: Setting reasonable expectations is pivotal in any relationship, especially in the context of parenting. It is about understanding the capabilities and limitations of a child at any given age or stage in their development and aligning your expectations accordingly.

Final Thoughts

All the above, I’m sure you’ll agree, are great things to include in a list of ‘general qualities of a good mother’.

There are many reasons why I love my mom – too many mention!

What about you? What do you think? What traits do you think other moms should have?

I’d love for you to comment below with what you think are the best qualities of a good mom. I look forward to reading them!