What Are The Qualities Of A Good Mother?
A good mother, the perfect mum, how to be a good mum. If you’ve googled one of these phrases or similar you’re not alone (guilty!). During my pregnancy (and after) I read a lot about how to be a good mum. However, as time has progressed and I’ve been at this mothering game a bit longer I’ve come to realise something. You can not learn how to be a good mum from a book and there are many qualities of a good mother.
It takes a lot of time, patience and learning to master the qualities of a good mother – then I promise you at some point you’ll stuff it up because lets fact facts we are all human and make mistakes. Plus those kids sure know how to press our buttons and makes us go from a good mum to a crazy mum in 3 seconds flat!
I’ve been thinking long and hard about what qualities make a good mum. I decided this is too big a question for one mum to answer. There’s so may different outlooks on being a mum so I wanted to get a variety of responses from lots of different mums. So I asked some of my great blogging mummy friends what they thought too.
What Are The Qualities Of A Good Mother By The Best Mum Bloggers
I Am River – I think the most important quality a mum can have is just believing in your children no matter what. I have two son’s, the youngest has Down Syndrome but I genuinely believe they will both achieve great things. Support and belief, the material stuff is just decoration.
My Boys Club – Always trying your best as a parent – no one can be the best at everything – and not only doing it yourself but also helping your children understand that.
Family Travel With Ellie – A good mum is one who’s children can go to them at anytime and talk to them about anything with no fear of being judged. They know you will love and help them whatever life throws at them.
The Money Whisperer – Listening is high up there. By always listening to a little person, we encourage them to talk to us whether it’s something good or bad, and we give them the skills to be a good listener themselves.
Mummy Cat Notes – One quality I feel that is important is trusting and believing your children, they need to know that while you can be tough, you have their side with everything, my son recently dealt with a bully at school (who pointed the blame at my son and his friend) and it took a while for him to actually open up and tell me and I made it clear to him that he can trust me and that I was there for him and more importantly that I understand.
Emma Reed – To be able to be there for your child no matter what and to provide them with a loving environment to grow up in.
Hello Little Lovely – Unconditional love and forgiveness. I think you need to give children a lot of grace in order for them to understand how to extend it to others.
Five Little Doves – Honesty. I am very honest with my children about the mistakes I have made, but I explain to them the reasons I made them and the regrets I have, I hope it prevents them from making the same mistakes as they grow.
Lylia Rose – Having oodles of patience definitely helps!
Mighty Mama Bear – Instilling the belief in children that they can achieve anything if they put their mind to it and encouraging them to dream. I think it’s so important that they have that self belief in a world of doubters and nay-sayers.
Carter Family 4 – Teaching my Son to have respect and be kind is one of the most important things I think.
Glasgow With Kids – There are so many things that can make you a good mum and everyone is different, so will have different strengths. For me, having a good sense of humour has been so important. I’ve found that to be my biggest strength in some situations, especially having 2 young children. I hate when I turn into ‘angry mum’ (which does still happen) but being able to see the funny side of things helps me to maintain my sanity and my patience when things go awry.
Thrifty Mum – Clean bum, full tum. Anything else is a bonus! Even on those days where you all just have to settle for “survival mode”-you’re still a good Mum.
Pink Pear Bear – Good cuddling skills. Cuddles are free and can be doled out anywhere. Taking the time to sit and watch tv with the kids and just cuddle them is a wonderful thing.
Crummy Mummy – Saying sorry when you’re in the wrong. I think that’s really important – after all we’re all human…
Plutonium Sox – Thick skin! Whatever you do, someone will be there to tell you that you’re getting it wrong. You’re not getting it wrong, you know your children and the values that matter to you. Ignore the critics because to your children, you’re the best mum in the world.
And Another 10 Things – Being able to say sorry to them when you’ve done something wrong. It’s important to show them that no one is above making mistakes or apologising for them.
Nellie Pom Poms – I’ve got 3 children. Girls. 19, 16 and 13. Each one is different and they are treated differently. Don’t compare, don’t take the first story as the truth and above all they’re not your best friends, they’re your children.
Virtually All Sorts – Listening, loving and patience! Maybe even in that order! Nothing means more to your child than stopping what you’re doing and just listening; loving goes without saying and a whopping dose of patience is essential!
Our Altered Life – As well as all of the above I’d say it’s important to have a good sense of humour. To model when to laugh at yourself and to keep things in perspective. Not everything that is a drama now, is still a drama tomorrow. Always try to find the humour where you can.
Blissful Domestication – So many qualities as already said above! For me being a good mum is having time to put my kids requests to ‘my play lego’ or ‘pretend to be a fairy’ at the top of my priority list, and become part of their imaginative play.
Are Pops – Good mums are those with best intentions.
Kelly Allen Writer – Good mothers are kind. Simple. I have been through a harsh stage, a shouty stage, a strict stage, and none of them worked or made me or the kids feel good. Kindness however, costs nothing and makes everyone feel oh so good. Even on awful days, being kind fixes everything. That sounds pretty good to me.
Kate On Thin Ice – I consider myself good enough despite being rubbish in so many areas for instilling great and caring values into my 3 children and for keeping them safe from harm.
My Parenting Journey – I think one thing that I learned from my mom, which I am now applying to my child is giving unconditional love (I know, what a cliche right?) No matter what I did, my mother supported and loved me. She never gave up on me. Even when I was at my worst, she never left me. I may hear a few nags from her but in the end she still helps me get through. I took all her love for granted but in the end, the reason I turned my life around was because of her love.
All of the above I’m sure you’ll agree are great things to includes in a list of qualities of a good mother. What about you? What do you think? I’d love for you to comment below with what you think are the qualities of a good mother. I look forward to reading them!
Hi! I’m Julie. I write about all things related to mum life. I’m also a postpartum depression survivor. I love helping mum start their mum blog journey and I have step-by-step guides to help!