10 Things You Should Never Say To A Pregnant Woman

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10 Things You Should Never Say To A Pregnant Woman

Being pregnant can at times be stressful and scary, there’s so much going on and so much to think about.

However even though you’re a crazy hormonal pregnant lady people still insist on asking you or commenting the most flipping annoying things EVER! 

Here are the top 10 things you should never say to a pregnant woman.

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Here are 10 things you should absolutely definitely never say to a pregnant woman – unless that is you don’t value your life!

1. Will You Still Work After The Baby Comes?

I may still go to work, I may stay at home … what does this matter really? Either way I’ll be loving and providing for my baby. I can still be a good mum and have a full-time job if I choose to! 

Whenever I’d reply yes I’ll be returning to work I’d be greeted with ‘oh well you’ll change your mind when it comes to it’. It was like I was making the wrong decision about how to care for my own child – thanks, way to make me feel better I haven’t even had the kid yet!

2. Are You Planning On Breastfeeding?

I may breastfeed, I may not breastfeed. What has what I do with my boobs got to do with you? Get Lost! All I know is I will be feeding my baby somehow – always a good option that one by whatever option!

3. Look How Huge You’re Getting! 

So your saying I’m looking fat?! Really? Well I am growing a human in there so I’m glad something is happening but there’s still no need to mention the fact that I’m so huge and remind me!

4. Was It Planned? 

I never really see the purpose of this question. Weather my baby was conceived by us planning for a family or by accident is none of your business. Anyway does it truly matter? 

Either way the baby will be loved and very much wanted. What if I say no it was an accident – I fail to see how my sex life is any of your god damn business right now or ever.

5. Are You Planning On Having More? 

Come on! I haven’t even got this one out yet give me a break yeah! Nuff said you crazy fool!

6. You Look Tired! 

Well I’ve been up 50,000 times in the night to go pee. I can’t get comfy when I’m in bed because I’m getting huge as you so nicely reminded me.

Then there is that small thing of me growing another human being inside me – i’d say that’s a fair assessment of why I look tired wouldn’t you? Oh yeah and I have this gig on the side called a full time job too..

7. Sleep Now Because You Won’t Be Able To When The Baby Comes! 

No shit Sherlock. This has to be the one that annoyed me on a whole new level. Yes I am well aware that a baby will be up every 2-3 hours to feed etc. 

I’m not under any kind of illusion that i’ll be sleeping 8 hours a night in one lovely chunk. I mean come on yeah stating the bleeding obvious.

8. Enjoy Your Life Whilst You Still Can!

Is this supposed to mean my life is over? That after the baby comes I won’t enjoy my life anymore? Oh my god what have I done?! 

What a terrible statement to make to someone who’s expecting – their life isn’t over that are being a new chapter and yes it still will be very much enjoyable – if not more so.

9. You Shouldn’t Be Eating / Drinking That!

Yes I should be. Don’t worry I have read the list of things I should avoid I’m not daft!

This is so annoying – making out like I’m naive and risking the health of my baby in some way – eurgh. Also i feel i should mention decaffeinated teabags are god awful!

10. Your Still Pregnant!?! 

Being overdue is massively uncomfortable and I can assure you we wish were no longer pregnant and that the baby would just hurry up on out already! 

We are well aware we are ‘still’ pregnant thank you. I have tried everything to get this baby out but to no avail. We are pissed off and fed up to the max. Your statement isn’t helpful.

I’m betting you’ve all had plenty of these comments and more! If you could add one thing to this list of things you should never say to a pregnant woman, what would it be? Comment Below!

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  1. July 17, 2016 / 7:49 am

    Ahh I hate when strangers ask if it was planned and was so tempted a few times to say “No it was a one night stand”. “Is it your first?” “No my 10th”. I swear when you become pregnant people automatically feel they can touch your belly and ask stupid questions. The same once you have the baby and people want to touch your baby’s feet. Weirdos!! #kcacols

  2. July 17, 2016 / 6:46 pm

    The tricky thing is…you then fear saying anything for fear of causing offence! My personal strategy is just to answer every question as it comes and laugh to myself/roll my eyes afterwards. #PuddingLove

  3. July 17, 2016 / 7:26 pm

    Oh god yes, the “was it planned?” question. I was 19 when I got pregnant, and I got it all the time. Literally, from everyone. Great list! #KCACOLS

  4. July 17, 2016 / 7:32 pm

    Number 7 used to drive me MAD because it’s both completely impossible, and false! In late pregnancy sleep is horrendous and there’s certainly not much spare to be banked. #puddinglove

  5. July 17, 2016 / 7:57 pm

    For me the breatsfeeding one is so annoying. It is a personal choice. I also hated when people thought that is twas ok to touch my bump without asking or questionning about names and disagreeing with my ideas #PuddingLove

  6. July 17, 2016 / 8:34 pm

    My preggers friend was asked if she’s found out the gender of the baby and when she was expecting a girl this women went on a 10 minute rant about how she thought it was wrong to find out. It’s like, why ask?! #puddinglove

  7. July 18, 2016 / 8:08 am

    Ah yes, these are so true! It’s super annoying when people ask if your having another, its none of anyones business anyway x #MarvMondays

  8. July 18, 2016 / 1:09 pm

    Goodness I think at different points of my pregnancy before I got all of this in the last list! And it can be hurtful a lot of times. #puddinglove

  9. July 18, 2016 / 8:51 pm

    I tried not to let these sort of things bug me, I’d have been constantly annoyed if I had, ha! Popping over from #marvmondays

  10. July 19, 2016 / 10:54 am

    I swear so many of these are questions people just blurt out when they don’t know what else to say and without thinking. So many people kept asking me if I was planning more when A was just born. ‘Err no not right now’ Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

    • mummyitsok
      July 20, 2016 / 7:06 pm

      Always loved the are you planning more question – woah slow down I haven’t got this one yet lol

  11. July 20, 2016 / 9:05 am

    Another one I hated was when people touched my bump without asking #KCACOLS

  12. July 20, 2016 / 9:59 am

    One thing I HATED about being pregnant was the feeling that I lost my privacy. Complete strangers would come up to me asking these EXACT questions, and I would just be like “uh…?”
    I hated when everyone felt like, because I had a huge belly, it was there for anyone and everyone to touch whenever they wanted. I’m not sure why everyone felt like they had access to the information about my baby and my body-but it was definitely weird. Thanks for sharing! <3 #KCACOLS

    • mummyitsok
      July 20, 2016 / 6:59 pm

      Yeah having random strangers feel your bump is the worst. Every time I went to the shop on lunch break I’d get asked ohh how far along are you, do you know what your having etc etc… Look lady I just want to buy my meal deal for £3 and go have a quick nap in my car before I have to start work again lol!

  13. July 20, 2016 / 3:38 pm

    Yeah this wound me up no end when I was preggo. Especially with no2 as she was a summer baby and being hot as well just got me more annoyed. Wish people would think instead of being dicks! #KCACOLS

    • mummyitsok
      July 20, 2016 / 7:00 pm

      Hahahahaha yeah same here had a summer baby! I think I got so annoyed because every person asked me exactly the same set of questions lol.

  14. July 20, 2016 / 6:47 pm

    I honestly don’t think people think before they speak half the time! I hated it when i was really big, people used to put their hand on my tummy and say ‘awe’, it was still me they were touching, not the baby! Thanks for linking up to #puddinglove

    • mummyitsok
      July 20, 2016 / 7:01 pm

      Yep personal space is key here people! Just because we’re pregnant does mean we don’t need it!

  15. July 21, 2016 / 4:52 pm

    It’s funny I forget whether or not I was asked any of these but my hubby got asked similar ones regards sleep. #MarvMondays

  16. July 22, 2016 / 8:08 am

    Yes! I completely get this! Clearly…you know all these things and the one that really annoys me is the “enjoy life whilst you can” is so riduculous…er I have a reason to constantly go to the beach, theme parks and disneyland now…thanks so much for linking up to #KCACOLS hope to see you back next time!

  17. July 22, 2016 / 2:46 pm

    Haha, people really shouldn’t mess with pregnant women! Some of these I just find really surprising that people actually ask! x #KCACOLS

  18. July 28, 2016 / 10:53 pm

    Urgh that was my main bug bear about being pregnant was the constant stream of idiocy I had to put up with from complete strangers. For some reason people assume you become public property when pregnant and say some horrible things. Great post 🙂 #bestandworst

  19. July 29, 2016 / 2:22 pm

    I will confess that I ask about breastfeeding. If the answer is no, I say, “My twins were formula fed and are doing just great!” If the answer is yes, I offer my experience breastfeeding twins, and formula-supplementing. The question that made me crazy was (still is) “Are they natural?” Asking people about their fertility is so rude! Here from #bestandworst.

  20. July 31, 2016 / 2:26 pm

    I just tried not to let these bother me, it is bizarre what some people see as acceptable to ask though isn’t it. Thanks for linking up! #bestandworst

  21. August 22, 2016 / 5:27 am

    Yep I’ve also had – will you try for a boy? This one is my second girl. The you look tired and huge also are not my faves! Why are people so dumb? Lol. Great post! X #fartglitter

  22. From Day Dot
    August 22, 2016 / 7:26 am

    Oh my god yes!! I’m 7 months now and I’ve had all of these comments, it’s so annoying! Especially the one about sleeping while we can – I can’t sleep at night for all the reasons you’ve mentioned, and I have a full time job, when am I supposed to get all this sleep?! I wrote a post recently about people saying how massive I am and how I’d prefer people just lie to me and tell me I look amazing even if they think I look awful, it’s so inappropriate! Great list, you couldn’t have got it more spot on! #FartGlitter x

  23. August 22, 2016 / 10:47 am

    I was nodding along to every point in this list! Especially “was it planned” I got this a lot – having been married for 2 years and asked every day when we were going to have a baby, a LOT of people were surprised when we actually did and thought we were too young so it must have been unplanned (we were 25, and as I said, married for 2 years!!) Everyone loves to have an opinion #fartglitter

  24. August 22, 2016 / 2:26 pm

    You should have heard all of the comments I got when I was preggers with the twins…and then AFTER! I have an article on it coming out on SMM very soon.


  25. August 22, 2016 / 5:51 pm

    Yes to all of these! I’m expecting baby number three and have had all of these at some stage over each of my pregnancies! #fartglitter

    • August 30, 2016 / 6:59 pm

      Oh no! Don’t think i could take all these questions 3 times poor you!

  26. August 22, 2016 / 6:29 pm

    Yes yes yes to so many of these! “Was it planned?” has always struck me as being such a personal question to ask and yet random strangers seem to feel entitled to enquire about your contraceptive measures or lack of them? The last one is so painfully irritating too! Along with “No baby yet then?” As though you might have just accidentally sneezed it out and forgotten to tell anyone. Grrr!

    Great post. Thanks for linking with #fartglitter x

  27. September 17, 2016 / 11:56 am

    OH I hated being asked whether I was going to breastfeed or not – it really stressed me out, my midwife was a little pushy. Great post! #JustAnotherLinky

  28. September 17, 2016 / 6:10 pm

    Haha was I planned was something we were asked countless times, more so given the small age gaps and whilst they actually weren’t planned that way I think its damn right rude to ask someone that question!! #justanotherlinky

    • mummyitsok
      September 17, 2016 / 10:54 pm

      So very rude!!

  29. September 17, 2016 / 7:49 pm

    Yup! I was so huge with my second that everyone asked ‘are you sure there’s just one in there?!’ Errrr?! After a few of them I used to play dumb and say “shit, you think it could be twins?! I’d better sign up with a doctor and check!” #justanotherlinky

    • mummyitsok
      September 17, 2016 / 10:52 pm

      Hahaa love it!

  30. September 17, 2016 / 7:51 pm

    I was so big with my second that everyone asked ‘are you sure there’s only one in there?!’ After a while I used to just play dumb and say “Shit, you think it could be twins?! I’d better sign up with a doctor and have it checked!” #justanotherlinky

  31. September 18, 2016 / 10:19 pm

    I remember my wife getting annonyed at the end by people asking/texting has it come yet. Like she would have had it and then not tell anyone. #justanotherlinky

  32. Alison
    January 8, 2017 / 10:44 pm

    Try adopting a baby. The questions get even more personal. How long were you trying for a baby? Who was his birth mother? What was his original name? Why did his birth mother give him up? How could anyone give their baby away? (This was before the adoption order and still terrified that birth mum would change her mind.) Where does he come from from? His ears stick out like Prince Charles’. (Implying what?) Only the nice girls get caught so you’ll have a baby from a nice girl. And the prize one left me in tears when he was six weeks old – He would have been better being aborted than adopted, look at the stress he is going to go through.

    I have also had a birth child and got most of the pregnancy comments too.

  33. February 13, 2017 / 1:34 pm

    Number 10 drove me crazy when 2 weeks overdue with baby 3 🙁

  34. March 18, 2017 / 9:19 am

    These made me laugh!!! I never forget being told I’m August that I must be due any day now so why was I doing the food shopping??

    I wasn’t due until end of October. Literally could’ve killed the checkout girl!

  35. May 1, 2018 / 5:35 pm

    ‘Was it planned’ is the worst INO. It doesn’t matter if baby is planned or not! none of their business. #READYSETLINK

  36. May 2, 2018 / 5:21 pm

    Yes to all there, especially you look tired and get your sleep in now. Seriously didn’t need that pressure had enough on my planet X #readysetlink

  37. May 3, 2018 / 12:30 pm

    Brilliant post I am expecting baby number three and some of these still annoy me! #readysetlink

  38. May 4, 2018 / 12:18 pm

    Haha I love these, although I have to say I am guilty of saying a few of the. Oops, you’d think I’d know better! #readsetlink

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